Unwanted Pregnancy -
How to deal with it

It doesn’t take a family counselor to tell you that an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy can dramatically affect a relationship. Some men are definitely not ready to be fathers, while others will rejoice when their spouse says she is about to bring another life into the world – a life that he has helped to create.

Discussing the possibilities and specifics of an unwanted pregnancy from the get-go, will give the woman some insight into how you feel, and if it is more likely that you would want her to terminate the pregnancy.

However, ultimately, the decision about whether or not you become parents, is hers. It’s an obvious dilemma: you’re not ready for a child, but don’t want to loose your partner. If you approach her appropriately to deal with the matter, it’s also possible to get her to consider your wants.

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Five Things Never To Tell a Woman

For starters, the most famous rule is, never tell a woman she is fat or that she has recently gained weight – even if you think this is a compliment. Caribbean women are conscious that their male counterparts drool over voluptuous breasts, hips and thighs; nevertheless, it’s distasteful to keep offering her a diet shake whenever you meet. A woman likes to hear that she is shapely, attractive and can make any old dress come alive. One slip of the tongue could have you waiting on her to painfully grease herself into something she wore when she was fifteen pounds lighter.

Another sure way to get bumped over the head is to tell your partner her best friend is sexy. All you need to say is, “Donna is sexy” – at the end of which, she will come to the conclusion that you had in fact meant that her best friend is more appealing and you’d rather be with her. Men, keep the compliments regarding the best friend to yourself, or extremely abstract. While we’re on the topic of sex appeal, when out on a date, never tell your woman that she looks ‘nice’ - find another adjective. ‘Nice’, to a woman’s ears, means, drab, uninspiring and less than being a knockout.

Most women, especially those near or beyond thirty, will shy away from revealing their age to anyone, and they don’t want you revealing it either! So, shhh if you hear your wife, sister or friend trying to worm her way out of answering that touchy question. More importantly, never tell a woman she looks like her age, or older. Always tell a woman that she looks years younger. If you prefer not to lie, don’t interfere even if you overhear her saying she’s only twenty, when you happen to know she was playmates with Paul Bogle’s father.

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